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Everyone talks but do you know how to listen effectively?  Ask yourself, "Am I a good listener?" So, think before you answer......Okay, times up. Are you sure of your answer? Well, let's find out.
Believe it or not, God gave us a mouth and a pair of ears for a reason and this is the reason. Its because, He wants us to talk less and listen MORE. But, do you know how to listen? So, these are some tips on how to listen effectively?
Of course, we listens with our ears, but there's a trick. In order it to become effective, we listens carefully and attentively to what others are saying. So, avoid distractions when you are about to have a serious discussions or meetings. I means all, including incoming messages or calls, outstanding minutes of a meeting, and even if you have a very important business deals that you need to take care of.



What!!! How do we listen with our mouth? It's easy. We listens by giving feedback or question the other person. If he/she just gave you a presentation.Give them a feedback. This will let the other person know you heard and understood his/her message. where they will feel appreciate. If they just gave you a piece of information. Ask a question. Don't take anything for granted. Doing so, this will help you to find out necessary information that you need. The trick lies in asking the right questions and in knowing what you are looking for.

I'm sure you know what this means. It means that we need to give an eye contact to the other person. I have done this so many times. It really helps me to become an effective listener...I think.Listen with your eyes is not only about giving eye contacts but it also helps to figure out the other person body languages, including their voice intonations and facial expressions. All these information could communicate with you, loudly and clearly.

After you listens with your eyes, once again you must give a feedback, but  instead with words, you could give a feedback with your own body language through your heart. If someone just gave a very nice talk, give him/her a round of applause. If someone just told you about a sad story, be empathy, be on the other person shoes. How do you feel if you are in his/her situation? In the end, they will realize that you are there for them and they have someone that they could talk to.

To summarize, listening skills is very important in communications, whether in negotiations, interviews and even in love relationships . We communicate all the time and listening is a must. So use it wisely and effectively.