Don't Just Point Fingers!!!

Today, I read about a rape case.
Which is very common nowadays.
Unless we do something about it.
Unless we make some changes. In lifestyle.
It will unnecessarily become a bad culture.
A negative impact to the community.

So, let's get back to the point.
The rapist, a guy who is a "few" years older than her.
Met her couple of times, and then raped her, in a hotel.
Then, of course, she reported to the police.
Which I'm pretty sure, her family did this.
Where, at the end of the story,
the guy was caught and put into jail.
How does it feel to be handcuff? I don't want to find out. For sure. [source]

Pretty typical of a rape case, right?
But, first, before you jumped into any conclusion,
Let's hear about this.
How did they meet?
They met through a social page in a magazine.
Where they put their pictures and phone numbers.
I'm sure you guys familiar with this kind of thing.
So, at last they contacted each other.
Through phone calls and messages.

Usually, in this type of case, the guy will always put to blame.
Of course, because he raped the girl.
But, have we seen this case in another point of view.
Another perspective. The reason why he raped the girl, in the first place?
Most people? I don't think so.
Every picture has may perspectives if we look them carefully. [source]
Why? Let's "listen" to what I'm going to say.
After a week, the girl sends an mms, a photo of herself, naked.
Then, they both went out. Dating, of course.
On the fourth meeting, the guy asked the girl to meet him at a hotel.
Then, the girl said OK, of course.
And then what happened, she was raped.
By a couple of guys too, I believed. According to the news.

So, you see here. If only she did differently, this won't happen.
If only she didn't send naked photos of herself, this won't happen.
If only she didn't meet a stranger in private, this won't happen.
If only she didn't accept the invitation, this won't happen.

However, those are just "if only" situations.
But, the thing is, it already happened.
And nothing we could do, to help this girl. And the guy.
Except to give them guidance to avoid it from ever happened again.
Things would be much more easier with a helping hand. Believe it. [source]
So, all I'm saying. We don't have to point fingers to just one side of the party.
Without careful investigation, the information we read might lead to wrong direction.
So, look carefully, because there are much more story to uncover.
And when the cat is out of the bag, we'll know more. For sure.
We'll know that the guy is not the only person responsible.
The girl also plays her role, which lead this thing to happen.
And through deeper exploration, we'll find out.
That family supports also a variable in the formula.
Because without a proper support, the pillars of a family will be broken.
And when something goes wrong, there will be no one to be blame.
Other than themselves.

syaftome ~ Stop blame others!!!

3 de' tour comments:

Anonymous said...

well, that girl obviously get my sympathy. whatever the reason, she might started the flame, but that guy, along with those guys who raped her, shouldn't do that at the first place.

let's detailing few points here.

they met through social media. its social, it means get connected. somehow that girl sent a pic of herself naked.

she's an asshole. but i do believe, the reason she sent that must be they're getting along and intimate, and both of them kinda merge into sexualrelation.

they met eventually. i do believe, there's no absolute reason you can just drag someone into a hotel. and we all, by our own mind, will agree the only reason they get in there at first place is only to fuck.

however, turns out that guy bring some friends along. she refuse to have sex with all of them. then, she get raped. and that's when its all turn into sour grain.

irony, once the girl had sex, lose virginity, her significant value decrease a lot. its mean, for most of man, she's good to fuck. well, here's moral issue's going on.

where's the respect? woman are man's companion, not sex toy. or birth machine or whatever you call it.

in our community today, when something get worse, eventually people will added the weight instead of turning it back.

same goes with that girl. she sent a naked pic, and that guy added bunch of disrespect. i honestly believe, if the very same thing happened to guy's family, he would kill anyone who did it.

enough with that. but i do believe, if we can show a bit of respect, toward ourself, to people, we all be good.

Vivian said...

org mengantok disorongkan bantal..kedak ya la situasi ya..mun mpuan sikda mudah glak berik pict..mudah glak cayak org..kedak ya la jadi..

sik salah berkawan..tp jgn mudah glak mok jumpa sbrg..jgn mudah glak mok berik pict pelik2 mun gik berkawan kedk ya..

syaftome said...

pali: haha...good interpretation there...n i guess it make sense though...

but watever it is...
in this case...
both are guilty...
and so, both parties shud be punish...not only the guy...
and then, both shud be provide with guidance to avoid the same mistake happen ever again...

bsi: yer...baek...kaunselor...
saya xkan buat perkara tersebut di masa akan datang... :)

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